How To Convince Your Wife/Girlfriend That She’s NOT Fat.

“Am I fat?”, “Do I look fat?”, “Does this dress make me look fat?”..

Aren’t these the most common questions your wife or girlfriend pose to you? And even after you honestly told them that they are not and you meant it from the bottom of your heart, they still won’t believe what you say. (OK this post can apply to women too if their husbands or boyfriends complain but statistics show that women ask these questions most of the time)

First and foremost, let us define what ‘fat’ means. Let’s take a citation from the dictionary: “having too much flabby tissue; corpulent; obese: a fat person.”

Technically speaking, we can define that a person is “fat” when his/her Body Mass Index (BMI) is 23 and above. How we calculate BMI is kg/m^2. However the BMI is a simpler version of measuring obesity and may not be accurate. A better way of measuring would be to use fat calipers to measure thickness of fat underneath the skin and then computing the answers with some mathematical equations. This is best done by a fitness or health care professional.

Ok, technicalities aside let’s get back to this topic on how to convince your partner that she is not fat.

Most women out there, no matter how slim or overweight would always have the mental trash that they are heavier then they should be. Though we can’t blame them totally for thinking this way (due to the strong media influence), there can and should be a way to resolve this. And what we can do to help them is by self acceptance.

Self-acceptance involves a realistic awareness of one’s strengths & weaknesses. This will give her the “unique worth” she feels about herself. This is needed before change could occur and can be achieved when she stops criticizing herself, and accepting these qualities.

One of the better ways in my opinion to kick start this is by positive self affirmations. You’ve got to tell yourself that you love yourself, you love your body, you appreciate your health, etc. Self affirmations would also help you towards putting the ‘action’ portion of your goals. To effect change, one has to step beyond their comfort zone.

For example if your partner keep saying she’s fat and suddenly decides to change and start thinking positive and wanting to take action; do you think there would be a high chance of success? In most cases, no. It’s always the action portion that’s a struggle. There are steps to it and first she’s got to declare her intention to want to change.

Watch this video below with your partner. That’ll be a good first move you can do to help.

Stay tuned for more postings on self affirmations in the future. Enjoy your weekends!

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